My Open Letter To GenX and Baby Boomers: Can’t We All Just Get Along?

by Ebonie Johnson Cooper

Portrait of business colleagues holding each other and laughing

Dear Gen X & Baby Boomers,

I know some of you think my millennial friends and I are still a bunch of kids. Truth is, we’re not kids anymore; at least the eldest of us anyway. We have real responsibilities and promising incomes. We are excelling in our careers. We’re married [+kids] (some of us). We even have mortgages. If that’s not the beginning of real adulthood, I don’t know what is. As we continue to become part of society in a more tangible way, we have to begin to understand one another. You can’t ignore us and think we’ll just go away. Our generation is laying a foundation that will change this world. We aren’t going anywhere.

I understand it may be hard for some of you to trust us. Just a mere five years ago we were going against the grain to ‘find ourselves.’ I, for sure, was labeled flighty, stubborn and lacking career direction. Now that my risk-taking behavior is starting to make sense, I’m “bold”, “forward-thinking”, and my favorite, “impressive.” We are beginning to be seen in a different perspective. The value we bring to the table is being recognized; without us many companies will not survive.

Businesses are realizing in five, ten, even fifteen years time, we will be leading society. The smart institutions are beginning to learn the ‘rules of millennials’; how we think, how we behave, how we make our own rules and how we require a sense of respect for what we bring to the table. The not so smart organizations are huffing and puffing about how terrible we are as employees. Which boat is your organization in? Are you forging relationships with us so we stay around? Are you hiring our small business to help sustain your big picture vision?

Yep, she's really a 25 y/o marine biologist!
Yep, she’s really a 25 y/o marine biologist!

While rough at times, we go after our dreams. Even when we aren’t sure, we take risks to start businesses. And no matter who is telling us no, we say yes. This is my generation and they make me proud; especially when there were 15 categories of Forbes’ 30 Under 30 List and I know one of them! Go Amanda Ebokosia! 🙂 Or how about we’re freakin’ marine biologists!

While we are making strides and shaking up the professional world, a strong leadership presence is being made in the world of giving as well. The proof is in articles like the one I found this week on HuffPost Impact. The face of philanthropy is changing and it’s looking a lot like mine, your mentees, your children- and for some of you, your grandchildren.

The rules that apply for corporations to play smart and learn about us, go for bigstock-portrait-of-a-happy-and-divers-19389686non-profits too. Who will be your donors in ten years? Surely not the major gifts donors writing you checks now. Who will be your volunteers? Not the stay at home mom who comes in weekly now to help out. Right. It’s time you learn how to engage with millennials- the right way.

Ask yourself, ‘where will my institution be if we don’t cultivate relationships with millennials?’ As shameless as all shameless plugs go, I invite you to join me for my workshop on January 30 on millennial engagement geared toward non-profit sustainability: Meet The Millennials: The Next Generation of Sustainable Donors.

Three years ago when I had the idea to start this blog, I just wanted to tell my real life friends about giving back. I had no clue there was a generational thread that connects my desire to give with others. I also didn’t know when left my job for the first time in 2008 in search for career and passion fulfillment, I was doing something that was indicative of my generation. Now as I prepare to enter into a new decade of my life- yes, 30- I realize how much I am a product of my generation and how much my generation is changing this world. It’s quite the story to watch.

I hope you’re watching and engaging with us too. We’re doing great things in the world and as long as we understand one another we’ll all go farther- together.



5 thoughts on “My Open Letter To GenX and Baby Boomers: Can’t We All Just Get Along?

  1. Thank You, Ebonie!

    There has always been an overwhelming calling to damn younger (i.e changing) generations’ ideals almost as a societal “right of passage”. Be that as it may, Gen Y has fast-forwarded the societal prime-time from age 35-50 to RIGHT NOW. This is a generation of urgency. We are living our day today, not after we’ve “paid dues”, not after we’ve settled down, and certainly not after any permission…Gen Y has taken the world by storm and therein lies the clash…You’ve got multiple generations fighting for territory.

    Its a prince acting like a king, but daddy ain’t dead.

    Like you said, we are here to stay. I, for one, am excited for all we’ve done and will do. What impact will our propensity for transparency, post-racism, work-life function, equality and efficiency make on the quality of life for future generations?

    Makes me just damn giddy.

    Thanks again! 😉

    1. Yes Rikkiyah! We surely have moved things up. Some times I think some older generation members are intimidated- others actually genuinely what what’s best for us. I love your analogy about the prince and the king. It’s SOO true. But it doesn’t have to be a fight if they just learned to work with us. I’m glad my peer are singing the same song- most of us anyway! Here, here!

  2. Pingback: Reason & Existenz

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s